Instructional coaching is such a rewarding experience. Being able to dig into your passion on instruction and combine that with the art of working with adults, while putting the success of others at the forefront, is incredibly rewarding.
But, let’s also be real: It can be lonely.
Depending on the position, you’re not always officially part of any building or any team. You have stepped into a role that requires a different relationship with teachers, but yet, you’re not one the team of administrators. You can oftentimes find yourself as the lone man, not in any staff picture, part of any holiday outing or beginning of the year scavenger hunt.
And, when it comes to implementing change, it gets tricky, because you are the go-between and sometimes between teachers and admin with very different philosophical beliefs. Trying to bridge the gap while maintaining relationships is difficult to say the least.
Sometimes you’re supported and celebrated by admin and sometimes you’re not.
Sometimes you are thanked, but many times you do a ton of work to prepare for something and nobody knows the effort put in.
None of this is meant to be negative or discouraging, but it is real. Coaching is lonely. It is not for the faint of heart, the thin-skinned or those who question themselves too much. But, honor the complexities and lonliness that is the reality. Reach out to other coaches, read on leadership, find a mentor and continue to build relationships even though others don’t try to facilitate relationships with you. Pushing through these challenges is so worth it. The success of others is dependent on your ability to overcome. The success of students is dependent on your ability to overcome.